Going Back to School after Divorce Can be Stressful for Parents and Kids
Being a summer parent has its unique stresses. They include arranging play dates, packing lunches, picking them up on time, having dinner ready, baths, flossing, and getting them to bed to get ready for the next day.
Transitioning back to school after divorce and switching to a new schedule brings with them another set of stresses. If you’re divorced or contemplating divorce, these stresses can be unwanted and overwhelming. They can also have an extremely negative impact on your children – an impact that they’ll likely carry through their lives.
Consider the following and how each contributes to stress for you and your children:
- Disagreements about a child’s bedtime
- One parent is always on for helping with homework and the other not so much (or in a different way)
- One parent is less punctual for appointments or events
- The other parent does not bother to see the children, leaving the children confused and unhappy
- You have a child with special needs and the other parent just does not “get it”
- There is a lack of communication regarding the children, creating uncertainty, confusion, and even fear
- Whenever the parents get together, they argue, whether the child is present or not
Whether you have already been divorced or if you are contemplating divorce, consider these benefits of the Collaborative Process:
The focus of the process is on the children and helping the parents create a strong co-parenting relationship.
The process is premised on a commitment of everyone involved to resolve all issues out of court. This commitment is absolute, with all professionals being disqualified from contested hearings in the event the parties are unable to create a resolution in the process. This means that everyone is “all in”, and nobody can use the process in bad faith, or to gain information to be used against a party in future court actions.
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